narrated by: Kenzie
My sister-in-law asked my brother, Ethan for a divorce, and they are in the final stages right now. Sure, we’ve always thought Meredith was dreadful, but it’s shocking to my system nonetheless. It’s not so much that my brother is getting divorced, it’s the feeling that it could happen to anyone. They’ve been a couple for twenty-five years, since Cara was one, married for twenty-three of those years.
Ethan had took over parenting Cara, the same way that Tyler stepped into fatherhood for my Zeke. We all know that being step-parents is difficult work, and helps destroy marriages, but it’s shattering to my reality when a marriage is thrown away after so many years. At some point you feel safe in your marriage, and your partner, and this makes it seem like it’s never safe.
As much as we both feel badly for Ethan, we don’t think he’s innocent, and are exhausted with him coming over.
Tyler groans when the doorbell goes, but I try to be positive that he even rings the bell. He could just barge in, and it wouldn’t surprise me.
He’s unhappy staying with Colin and Luca. Neither of them are pleasant to him, he complains. Colin says that he needs to get off his butt and get a job. Which Ethan thinks is harsh, and that you can’t just find work when you’re fifty-five.
He does nothing but complain, and he not only drains me, he infuriates me. It’s all Meredith’s fault in his eyes, and his sons wanting him to pitch in for rent is just rude, he thinks. I can’t even imagine expecting Zeke or Lorelei to provide for me, especially when they are all so young themselves.
After my snapping, he’ll sulk off and find where Tyler went to hide. We aren’t big beer drinkers, but Ethan is, and he’s driving us to it.
Tyler knows that the troubles with Ethan’s marriage have been on my mind. It’s hard to watch a marriage become obsolete without applying that thought to your own. Their finalization is in two weeks, and Tyler decided we needed to get out of town. He didn’t want just any old trip up to the mountains, he was taking us to Asia.
I don’t think I could love this man more if I tried, he knows the way to solve problems, and keep me sane.
This is Meg and Peter’s final year of high school this fall, which I can hardly believe, and Delaney told me how Meg wanted to place in an Advanced-Placement class. It requires the Principal’s approval, so they invited Bekah Grimsley over for dinner to discuss the kids’ education.
Jared thought the entire idea was bad, he still remembered their last meeting with Principal Grimsley when she told them that Peter shouldn’t even consider college.
She said that she should have trusted Jared’s instincts cause it didn’t go well at all.
First, Lauren belched loudly as she sat at the table, and started talking about how their parrot died and stunk real bad. But the final straw was when she got that look in her eye, and they knew it was going to be bad.
Needless to say, Bekah denied the kids Advanced-Placement courses, and Meg is devastated.
Even while I was visiting she was at the computer, and would randomly break down in tears.
I don’t know how Delaney manages raising all these kids. I had the luxury of raising mine practically one at a time, and I prefer that method immensely.
I’d never tell my sister, cause it’d be rude, but I think she’s absolutely nuts to have a child so late in life. I look at all the teens, and think how close she was to an empty house, full of peace and quiet and high cost college education bills. Instead she has little Lizzie gurgling on the floor, and she’s just beginning her journey in life.
In the end, it was Zeke who said he’d watch our home and feed the cat. He lives right near us, in the same neighborhood, and he insisted it wouldn’t be a big deal to swing by every other day. It’s all the cat needs anyway, she’s a good girl and won’t destroy furniture while we are out.
I’m going to really miss the twins while we are away, they are changing so much lately. Vivienne is a natural at talking these past few months, and is onto full sentences.
Cicely is more interested in doing things, and playing with animals. I keep telling them they should get a pet, but Morgan insists they don’t have the time to properly invest in one at the time being.
Originally I didn’t want to bother Zeke with watching our cat, and home, but Lorelei insisted she couldn’t handle the extra load. I understand seeing that she lives farther out, and doesn’t own a car.
I’ve always encouraged a strong feminist nature for my only daughter, but now that she’s twenty-three, I’d like her to have a relationship under her belt. She’s had dates and a boyfriend before, but I’m wanting her to have a long-term relationship. She doesn’t need to get married tomorrow, but a serious relationship is nearly as important as a good education.
Her roommate, Erin is dating my nephew Colin, and Lorelei said they had a bit of a falling out, but he’s coming on full force now. We both think it’s from Ethan living at Colin’s apartment. I swear, if Ethan forces Colin to rush into marriage just so he can avoid going back to his own apartment, I’ll do something fierce to my brother.
When I was growing up, our parents took all of us kids to Asia several times. I never got to do that with my kids, things were never ideal, and financially I’ve always struggled. It’s bittersweet to go now with Dean, but not with Zeke and Lorelei. While we could have used all of our savings to pay for everyone to go, it just wouldn’t have worked out this time anyway. Vivienne and Cicely are too little, Morgan is over-worked with the hospital’s on-going baby boom.
Dean was thrilled to go away for part of the summer. He can’t wait to go back to school in the fall and tell everyone he flew over an ocean, and visited another country.
He was a little too excited and Tyler had to reprimand him for jumping on the beds. This is one area that the two have the most conflict, it’s like Dean sips funny-giggle juice all day long, he’s constantly on the go, laughing, telling jokes. And Tyler has no sense of humor, he writes Non-Fiction for pity sake, he’s not an imaginative, fun-loving guy. He’s kind, caring, and provides well for his family, but silly isn’t his nature.
Dean’s a good boy though, and we can both recognize that in him, despite his inability to take anything seriously. I think it’s our advancing age that has made Tyler more of a lecturing type. Though he did lecture Lorelei quite a lot in her younger days too, so maybe I willed myself to forget all about it.
Sometimes I’d like him to let the serious part of him slide a little, and relax.
One of my goals for the trip was having everyone experience what I had as a young girl. We did the Tai-Chi early one morning. and it’s definitely not how I remembered it. My body groaned, and my shoulders actually made a grinding noise on some of the movements.
It must be my age, cause Dean picked it up right away and super fast. It’s as much a mind-exercise as it is physically, but Dean didn’t have any problems being quiet during the session. I envy him for his youth, and spry young mind.
Dean was quiet, and allowed me to pass on this little tradition with him. We talked about my twin sister Delaney, and how we were always so opposite. Mom would say if one wanted to go outside, the other one would insist we all go in. She was very studious, and did well, and I was much more interested in boys. Which is how I got Zeke to begin with.
It was a nice ending to our first family vacation, I’m hoping we can take trips more frequently, as long as Tyler’s work continues to sell well, I don’t see why we can’t. It’s odd to think of as financially well-off, not buried in money by any means, but if we had to, we could pay for all of Dean’s college education without batting an eye, and that’s saying something.
Notes:Must be the divorce, cause Ethan came over every day that I played their household. He never visited like this before, he’s always been anti-social when it came to his sisters.
I loved seeing Colin dropping flowers off for Erin, I imagine him trying to escape his Dad hanging out at his pad. Ethan literally sleeps on their sofa right in the middle of the apartment.
Meg had the want to get into Private School, which is just advanced placement in my hood. She didn’t get it. It was her last chance as I like to do it before the new school year starts. I can’t believe that this will be her and Peter’s last year in high school!
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