We celebrated our tenth anniversary this month; we went down to the small cafe in Millwood and kept it simple. It’s hard enough these days to get time at home together, let alone an evening out. As it happened, it was a Wednesday evening, and we had the place to ourselves.
He’s been more then I could have ever asked, a great provider, a gentle husband, and a receptive Father.
Dahlia had a day off school for a teacher-work day, and I’m swamped with planning Oliver and Brooklyn’s wedding, that she went off to work with Gideon. He’s still a scholar at EU, and while she was excited to be on campus, it quickly grew dull when he really had to work.
They arranged to meet up with Linnea before the day was out though, and that brightened her spirits.
She really looks up to her older sisters, though she didn’t really grow up with them. They tend to spoil her a fair bit, which isn’t a very accurate depiction of sisterhood. I remember fighting with my sisters over everything from boys to hairbrushes.
Dahlia grows bored quickly of adult conversations though, and thankfully brought a jump rope along to entertain herself. She’s not as active as we would like, but she always seems to be on the prowl for entertainment, which seems oddly opposite.
We managed to sit down that evening before dinner, and enjoy the spring weather. It’s been warming up, the birds are coming back and waking us early in the morning. Dahlia even found some fireflies to chase, and some bubbles leftover from last summer to blow.
I am spending most of my days at Brooklyn and Oliver’s new house. They’ve decided to host the wedding at their home, it seemed to be a debilitating decision for them. We spent a fair bit of time at an old church, but Brooklyn detested the reception space, and refused to move people from one location to another.
She’s coming along with decisions much quicker now that the venue is picked. She’s decided on a small orchestra for music, which is a first for me. I’m not sure where I’ll procure the musicians, and am thinking I’ll be forced to place an ad.
The wedding dress is finally completed, and the bridal party is all set as well. I even managed to assist the Mother’s in their gowns, which means that it is down to the small things, like decorating, and which chairs are more comfortable plus affordable.
Oliver’s Grandma Mandy has been coming down to work in her old garden. They utterly destroyed it since she moved out, and Brooklyn’s back just isn’t up for the work. She’s planting vegetables that she thinks will look pretty for the wedding, but I’m not sure it wouldn’t have been better just to put a flower garden in.
Spending time with Brooklyn makes me miss pregnancy. It’s an absurd thought this far along in life, but it doesn’t help to know that Gideon always wanted one more, a sibling for Dahlia to grow up with.
I enjoy the nights that I get to tuck her in, I don’t stay at Brooklyn’s until the sun has set, but I usually get forced into shopping for the wedding and making arrangements with local businesses for flowers and such.
As much as she thrives on attention, she’s still incredibly charming and sweet. Gideon lucked out that he didn’t get Paloma as his only child, of all my daughters, she’s by the far the easiest and most easy to love.
We try to arrange our mornings to at least have some cereal together, and maybe some making out in the kitchen without Dahlia’s eyes on us. She’s not a big fan of our outward affection.
The nights that I’m not at home, Gideon does better than fine on his own. They throw impromptu dance parties, and he cuts loose. Dahlia always wants me home for dinner, but she’s never terribly upset when I can’t be, and I know why!
On the weekend we try and visit with one of my older girls. They are both incredibly busy, Paloma with her bakery, and Linnea with her classes. This particular weekend, I was able to talk Linnea into visiting us at Paloma’s house, and it all managed to work out.
Thankfully, Adam and Paloma have Custard to keep Dahlia entertained. She insists that she wants to be an Aunt and to have a baby to play with. She has zero experience with babies, by the time one is able to play with her, she won’t be interested in it.
Linnea went to sit at the table with Gideon and ask all his opinions on men. She had a not-so-stellar first date on her birthday, and hasn’t heard back from him. She isn’t sure how to move forward when she’s such a spazz, those are her words.
I could sit back and listen to these two talk all day long. It brings such warmth to me, knowing that Linnea thinks of Gideon as her Dad. Nicholas was pretty much nine months in the grave before she was even born, so a Father figure has always been missing for her.
Adam even came to lend his opinion, which is always tricky territory. Everyone knows that Linnea is madly in love with Adam, and she’s doing her best to control it. Thankfully Adam doesn’t make it more awkward by avoiding her or treating her like anything but a sister-in-law.
Adam disagrees with about everything Gideon gives for dating advice, insisting that it’s been far too long since he had anything in the game to have any current experience.
Paloma had brought me upstairs to talk. Unlike Linnea, she doesn’t really think of Gideon as a Dad, he’s more of my husband to her. They get along really well, but she knew Nicholas, and still remembers him.
She could barely admit what was troubling her, it took much coercion on my part before she admitted that she’s extremely anxious over the future. Adam is hoping to try for a baby in the next year, and she’s afraid that things are going too good.
Bless her, she’s always been my anxiety-ridden, whirlwind. She’s afraid that something is going to jinx them, that they’ll lose the business, the house, and never be able to provide for a baby.
Now she’s spending too much time thinking about parenthood, and that always makes it seem impossible. I insist that they’ll figure it out, that their business is doing wonderful, and Adam is diligently paying off their debt, which puts them financially in a good place.
She seemed to feel much better after our talk, but I know that a few hours lost in her own mind, will wind her right back up. Adam really has his hands full with my eldest.
I’m excited for the day that they are expecting a baby, something to cure this baby fever of mine. And I hope that their baby will think of Gideon as a Grandpa, even if Paloma doesn’t think of him as Dad. He’s excited for the day to take on that role, even though he’s still such a youngster. I’m glad that he embraces an older wife and all my crazy daughters.
Notes: Paloma’s aspiration was in the red, I’m not sure what got her there, so I pegged it on her anxious personality trait. Of all the kids, she’s the one who remembers everything and has more of a burden. I am super excited for them to have a baby! Probably in the next year! I know they are onboard!
Linnea still loves Adam, and she adores Gideon. Poor guy though, the baby want cropped back up, then Eva got it. It’s just way too late in the game. If only they had met when Eva was younger, and moved more quickly, then maybe. As it is, Dahlia is such a cutie, and totally loves her big sisters and Adam.
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